I hosted Easter yesterday for about 15. A few days ago, an invited guest asked if she could bring her grown daughter with her (as well as her two young sons who were already coming). I agreed with no problem.
Yesterday, one of my first guests arrived to tell me that she had spoken to my friend (who was on her way) and that the friend asked her to tell me that her daughter was under the weather and so wouldn't be coming after all. This first guest then went on to tell me that they would, of course, expect to have the absent guest's dinner packed up and sent home with her mother. I told this first guest that I thought that was a rude request. I was told that I was being ridiculous.
I dropped it for the sake of a pleasant day (which is was) and braced myself for the follow-up request that I pack up a dinner. The request never came and I continued as if the request (from this first guest) had never been made.
Question: was I being ridiculous to think that this was a rude request? At the time, I had been up since 4am cooking and cleaning for everyone and I suppose I let my irritation show.