No, I'm not planning on dying anytime soon, but you never know. I've attended several wakes where I was sure that the honorees would have loved to have been there to see their friends, and eat the wonderful food everyone brought. Having the wake after they're gone is such a waste of fun.
For years, I've been toying with the idea of catering my own wake because I love to cook and I'd love to see my friends gather together BEFORE I die, so I can be included.
There are two other compelling reasons:
First, I don't know my real birthdate; even though both my parents were in attendance, they disagree on when I was born, and neither one knew the date anyway (this was in rural China, with no calendars). An annual wake could take the place of annual birthday celebrations.
Second, my husband said that if I did this as an annual event, then my friends could pick and choose which one to attend, and then after I die, they wouldn't feel guilty if not being able to attend the last one.
Any Chowhound suggestions for fun food themes, other than the requisite RIP cake? TIA.