Be honest with me--is this possible? Where? We have racked our brains and our chowhound.com.
Rehearsal dinner for 100+ people. (Not for more than a year, but are thinking ahead for a variety of reasons.) Don't want to spend a huge amount of money--would rather be able to invite more people and be inclusive than get fancy food. Super casual, fun, quirky, comfortable atmosphere for people in their 20s, 50s, 80s. Accessible by T. Next night is big hotel formal wedding--want to balance it out and start the weekend by putting a smile on everyone's face. Restaurant or not, most preferably not a hotel.
In my dreams, we rent a pretty room that has a view of the Charles and skyline (where?) and cater with Tamarind Bay, served family style. But we can't do Indian because none of the parents like Indian. And I don't think I can submit to doing barbecue because I'm a vegetarian and would feel guilty about all the cows. No clambake--there are a number of moderately kosher people involved (no shellfish, no pork, no super-blatant milk and meat combos.) And the sister-in-law is seriously allergic to peanuts, so it can't be Thai food. And it goes on.
Ideas and experiences are welcome, of course, as is pointing out the elements we should compromise on so as to stay somewhere in the neighborhood of the vision.
Thanks so much.