In Danny Meyer's book "Setting the Table" he repeatedly says that he is against servers asking "how is everything?"
I tend to agree with him. As a server I come to the tables often, make my presence know and sometimes will ask "is there anything else I can get for you right now? - once the food has been on the table for a few minutes.
On the other hand, I know that some people are less apt to speak their mind about their steak being undercooked or salad being overdressed if not asked first.
I would rather the customer leave happy with their overall experience (food and service) then suffer silently about something.
Just wondering how the CH public feels about this. Do you like it when a server asks if everything is alright? Is it irritating or does it give you a chance to state your potential problem more easily?